Which one do we celebrate?

Yesterday, 27th November, was our first church wedding anniversary. My hubby and I were chatting last night but both of us forgot about it. He sent me an sms this morning to greet me a belated wedding anniversary.

The church wedding is the second time we got married. The first one was a civil ceremony last December 21, 2004. We also forgot to greet each other on our first civil wedding anniversary. But, enough of my forgetfulness....(my "alzheimer" is a different story - hehe!)..

So, this got me into thinking....which one do we celebrate? The civil ceremony or the church? Some of our devout catholic relatives say that we should celebrate the church wedding as it is on this day that God gave us His blessings. Others say that we should celebrate the civil one as this is more binding.

Both dates are very important to us. I think that we are lucky to have 2 wedding anniversaries. (Very few people have that -- 2 wedding dates with the SAME SPOUSE). That would mean twice the memories that we can go back to especially during times of trials in our marriage. I believe we need that....all the happy memories that would remind us of our love for each other.

Ours is not a perfect marriage and we are not a perfect couple... But lucky for us, we do not need to strive hard to make our marriage work...Surely, effort is still needed to make our marriage last...but we do not feel that effort at all...because we both give freely and selflessly ourselves to one another, and this act of giving brings happiness to us.

So, which one do we celebrate? I'd say BOTH!